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You thought college was going to be amazing. You were ready to be in a new place with new people and have new experiences. You had a ton of goals going in and felt nervous, but excited. Then you started college and anxiety set in. You feel overwhelmed with balancing out school, friends, family, relationships, and self care.
You knew what you wanted to major in going into college and now you’re not so sure. You’re figuring out who you want to be, while also struggling with things you’ve gone through and/or are currently going through. You feel so much pressure to make all the right decisions so you don’t screw up your entire future.
Some people around you make college seem so easy, so you’re doubting yourself and your abilities. Insecurities are building up at a time when you thought you’d finally feel more confident. You’re second guessing everything you’re doing and are terrified to make the wrong move. You find it difficult to concentrate and have to read the same chapters over and over again when studying.
You want to go out with people and enjoy the college scene, but sometimes your anxiety makes it difficult to be present and have fun. Relationships seem like a lot of work and you wonder if it’s worth it. You feel sort of lost and confused about what direction to go in. You find yourself consumed by your worries and stresses: replaying conversations, overthinking all the time, and struggling to just be present.
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You can have more control over your thoughts and feelings. Be more confident with your self image and how you look overall. Be able to say “no” to others when you need to without feeling any guilt. You can have a fully formed identity and path in life.
You can have healthier relationships with family, friends, partners, and yourself. You can go through life being your authentic self without worrying about the expectations of others.
You deserve to worry less and get the most out of your life. Individual therapy can help you create the healthiest and happiest version of you.
Therapy sessions with me are typically pretty casual. As a virtual anxiety therapist, I treat counseling more like a self care than a regular doctor visit. So each session, we will discuss what's gone on in the past week and then decide what specific thing we are going to work on.
Occasionally, we'll work on heavier things, like the stuff you’ve never said out loud or feels uncomfortable to say out loud. Being in that space is where some of the best progress happens. In other sessions, we are talking about what's going well for you and try to figure out what is working so that you can keep it up!
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Therapy can be heavy, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be fun or interesting too. If you saw an Instagram post or TikTok that perfectly describes your experience, let’s watch it together and process it. If you went to a party with friends and are feeling good about your outfit, let’s work on continuing to build your confidence up. Got into an argument with a friend and are unsure of how to move forward? Let’s dissect the disagreement and work on how respond in the healthiest way.
Unsure about a date you just went on? We can talk about why and how to proceed. I’m not going to make you read a bunch of books or do a ton of therapy homework (though if you want podcast or book recommendations, I got them for you). But there will be small tasks to do occasionally between sessions, like practicing a new skill you’ve learned in sessions or setting a boundary.
I want therapy to be a great experience for you! You should feel comfortable, heard, and understood when you leave the room. You can say no to someone without feeling guilty. You can learn how to be nicer to yourself and find your identity. You can get to a point where you feel more comfortable with yourself, both physically and mentally. You can make a decision and feel good about it, without spending hours or days overthinking it. In therapy, you can learn tools and techniques to help you be your ideal self. If you come to sessions open and honestly, and work on yourself in and out of sessions, you will get something out of it.
Doing this work now as an emerging adult will set you up to be a more functional, healthy adult!